May 26, 2017

Talking with Your Children About Your Divorce

The article 7 Tips for Communicating with Your Children About Your Divorce is a wonderful guide to how to talk with your children about your divorce. It is key that both parents are together when speaking with the children. I would add that determining whether you speak with each child separately or not would depend … Continue reading Talking with Your Children About Your Divorce

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February 21, 2017

How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

Facing a divorce is confusing.  You are approaching an unfamiliar process.  Have your heard about divorce mediation?  Here is my summary of the divorce mediation process. I work with both husband and wife together.  You don’t need to be on the same page regarding the resolution of your divorce matters.  You do need to be in agreement … Continue reading How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

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September 2, 2016

BACK TO SCHOOL FLEXIBILITY AND GENEROSITY

Flexibility and generosity should always be your guiding mantra as you navigate through your shared parenting time arrangements.   Human nature being what it is, your ex-spouse will be more willing to work with you instead of against you if you offer the same. For example, Spouse A has a family gathering on a Sunday a … Continue reading BACK TO SCHOOL FLEXIBILITY AND GENEROSITY

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March 7, 2016

TED TED TALK—PARENT CONFLICT WORSE THAN DIVORCE

When I sit across from a couple who is embarking on the divorce process I ask them about their greatest concerns.  The vast majority of divorcing couples fortunately say, our children. Tamara D. Afifi, currently a professor at the University of Iowa, presented a TED talk on the impact of parental conflict on children.  (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKcNyfXbQzQ) … Continue reading TED TED TALK—PARENT CONFLICT WORSE THAN DIVORCE

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February 29, 2016

Brand New NJ Alimony Reform Case Law

Hot off the presses!  Application of the new alimony statute modification provision based on retirement was tested in the Superior Court of New Jersey, Appellate Division case, Landers v. Landers, Docket Number A-3931-14T3, which was approved for publication on February 22, 2016.  In Landers the court clarifies the standard for retirement based alimony termination or … Continue reading Brand New NJ Alimony Reform Case Law

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August 19, 2015

Same Sex Marriage & Divorce

As most if not all of the population of the United States is aware, the landmark June 26, 2015 US Supreme Court decision in, Obergefell v. Hodges, legalized same sex marriage. The court held that, The Fourteenth Amendment requires a State to license a marriage between two people of the same sex and to recognize … Continue reading Same Sex Marriage & Divorce

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June 22, 2015

New Jersey’s New Alimony Law

New Jersey’s alimony law, N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23 was revised on September 10, 2014. Some of the changes in New Jersey’s controversial alimony law clarify durational limits and provide factors for modification and termination of alimony.  Probably the most significant change in the New Jersey Alimony Statute is that the term “permanent” alimony has been replaced with … Continue reading New Jersey’s New Alimony Law

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June 10, 2015

No Tools Allowed

I love hearing during the divorce mediation process that parents both want to spend time with their children.  The flip side of that is using children as a tool or leverage during the divorce process.  More often such manipulations happen in the litigation setting than during mediation, but it is important to always prioritize your children’s best interests. … Continue reading No Tools Allowed

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May 27, 2015

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – … Continue reading Which Wolf Will You Feed?

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