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May 26, 2017

Talking with Your Children About Your Divorce

The article 7 Tips for Communicating with Your Children About Your Divorce is a wonderful guide to how to talk with your children about your divorce. It is key that both parents are together when speaking with the children. I would add that determining whether you speak with each child separately or not would depend … Continue reading Talking with Your Children About Your Divorce

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February 21, 2017

How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

Facing a divorce is confusing.  You are approaching an unfamiliar process.  Have your heard about divorce mediation?  Here is my summary of the divorce mediation process. I work with both husband and wife together.  You don’t need to be on the same page regarding the resolution of your divorce matters.  You do need to be in agreement … Continue reading How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

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September 2, 2016

BACK TO SCHOOL FLEXIBILITY AND GENEROSITY

Flexibility and generosity should always be your guiding mantra as you navigate through your shared parenting time arrangements.   Human nature being what it is, your ex-spouse will be more willing to work with you instead of against you if you offer the same. For example, Spouse A has a family gathering on a Sunday a … Continue reading BACK TO SCHOOL FLEXIBILITY AND GENEROSITY

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June 7, 2016

Pets in Divorce

Pets are considered personal property in divorce.  Some states will consider who will retain the pet as part of their overall division of personal property, but not to enforce a visitation schedule. In the event that the court does entertain the determination of which spouse shall retain the pet (usually dogs) the following considerations are … Continue reading Pets in Divorce

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April 11, 2016

When Mediating your Divorce Remember…

When Mediating your Divorce Remember… Understanding your spouse’s position is not the same as agreeing with it. Agree to be reasonable. When you’re willing to try to understand the other’s position, as long as it’s at least reasonable and makes sense (the reasonableness of which I understand is in the eye of the beholder), agreeing … Continue reading When Mediating your Divorce Remember…

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April 4, 2016

Divorce and the Affordable Care Act

  If you are the spouse covered on your employer’s plan, you won’t lose your health insurance coverage.  You will drop your soon to be ex-spouse when your divorce is finalized with the court since the divorce would be considered a life changing event. If you have a plan directly from an insurance carrier, you … Continue reading Divorce and the Affordable Care Act

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March 7, 2016

TED TED TALK—PARENT CONFLICT WORSE THAN DIVORCE

When I sit across from a couple who is embarking on the divorce process I ask them about their greatest concerns.  The vast majority of divorcing couples fortunately say, our children. Tamara D. Afifi, currently a professor at the University of Iowa, presented a TED talk on the impact of parental conflict on children.  (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKcNyfXbQzQ) … Continue reading TED TED TALK—PARENT CONFLICT WORSE THAN DIVORCE

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February 29, 2016

Brand New NJ Alimony Reform Case Law

Hot off the presses!  Application of the new alimony statute modification provision based on retirement was tested in the Superior Court of New Jersey, Appellate Division case, Landers v. Landers, Docket Number A-3931-14T3, which was approved for publication on February 22, 2016.  In Landers the court clarifies the standard for retirement based alimony termination or … Continue reading Brand New NJ Alimony Reform Case Law

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December 2, 2015

FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a … Continue reading FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

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October 16, 2015

FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day.   Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly … Continue reading FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

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