February 21, 2017

How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

Facing a divorce is confusing.  You are approaching an unfamiliar process.  Have your heard about divorce mediation?  Here is my summary of the divorce mediation process. I work with both husband and wife together.  You don’t need to be on the same page regarding the resolution of your divorce matters.  You do need to be in agreement … Continue reading How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

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June 7, 2016

Pets in Divorce

Pets are considered personal property in divorce.  Some states will consider who will retain the pet as part of their overall division of personal property, but not to enforce a visitation schedule. In the event that the court does entertain the determination of which spouse shall retain the pet (usually dogs) the following considerations are … Continue reading Pets in Divorce

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April 11, 2016

When Mediating your Divorce Remember…

When Mediating your Divorce Remember… Understanding your spouse’s position is not the same as agreeing with it. Agree to be reasonable. When you’re willing to try to understand the other’s position, as long as it’s at least reasonable and makes sense (the reasonableness of which I understand is in the eye of the beholder), agreeing … Continue reading When Mediating your Divorce Remember…

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April 4, 2016

Divorce and the Affordable Care Act

  If you are the spouse covered on your employer’s plan, you won’t lose your health insurance coverage.  You will drop your soon to be ex-spouse when your divorce is finalized with the court since the divorce would be considered a life changing event. If you have a plan directly from an insurance carrier, you … Continue reading Divorce and the Affordable Care Act

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December 2, 2015

FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a … Continue reading FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

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October 16, 2015

FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day.   Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly … Continue reading FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

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August 19, 2015

Same Sex Marriage & Divorce

As most if not all of the population of the United States is aware, the landmark June 26, 2015 US Supreme Court decision in, Obergefell v. Hodges, legalized same sex marriage. The court held that, The Fourteenth Amendment requires a State to license a marriage between two people of the same sex and to recognize … Continue reading Same Sex Marriage & Divorce

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June 10, 2015

No Tools Allowed

I love hearing during the divorce mediation process that parents both want to spend time with their children.  The flip side of that is using children as a tool or leverage during the divorce process.  More often such manipulations happen in the litigation setting than during mediation, but it is important to always prioritize your children’s best interests. … Continue reading No Tools Allowed

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May 27, 2015

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – … Continue reading Which Wolf Will You Feed?

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