Posts by Mindey Elgart
TED TED TALK—PARENT CONFLICT WORSE THAN DIVORCE
When I sit across from a couple who is embarking on the divorce process I ask them about their greatest concerns. The vast majority of divorcing couples fortunately say, our children. Tamara D. Afifi, currently a professor at the University of Iowa, presented a TED talk on the impact of parental conflict on children. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKcNyfXbQzQ)…
Read MoreBrand New NJ Alimony Reform Case Law
Hot off the presses! Application of the new alimony statute modification provision based on retirement was tested in the Superior Court of New Jersey, Appellate Division case, Landers v. Landers, Docket Number A-3931-14T3, which was approved for publication on February 22, 2016. In Landers the court clarifies the standard for retirement based alimony termination or…
Read MoreFEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE
A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a…
Read MoreFAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!
Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day. Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly…
Read MoreSame Sex Marriage & Divorce
As most if not all of the population of the United States is aware, the landmark June 26, 2015 US Supreme Court decision in, Obergefell v. Hodges, legalized same sex marriage. The court held that, The Fourteenth Amendment requires a State to license a marriage between two people of the same sex and to recognize…
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