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When Mediating your Divorce Remember…
When Mediating your Divorce Remember… Understanding your spouse’s position is not the same as agreeing with it. Agree to be reasonable. When you’re willing to try to understand the other’s position, as long as it’s at least reasonable and makes sense (the reasonableness of which I understand is in the eye of the beholder), agreeing…
Read MoreDivorce and the Affordable Care Act
If you are the spouse covered on your employer’s plan, you won’t lose your health insurance coverage. You will drop your soon to be ex-spouse when your divorce is finalized with the court since the divorce would be considered a life changing event. If you have a plan directly from an insurance carrier, you…
Read MoreFAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!
Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day. Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly…
Read MoreIndependence Day After Divorce
BUCKET LIST: Force yourself to make one. As a matter of fact you should probably make two bucket lists. The first list you make would contain those long term, “I want to do this before I die” items. Your second list would contain smaller scale, easier to attain, short term aspirations. Here are some…
Read MoreNo Tools Allowed
I love hearing during the divorce mediation process that parents both want to spend time with their children. The flip side of that is using children as a tool or leverage during the divorce process. More often such manipulations happen in the litigation setting than during mediation, but it is important to always prioritize your children’s best interests.…
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