According to Wikipedia, the people’s encyclopedia, the definition of a New Year’s Resolution is, “a commitment that an individual makes to one or more personal goals, projects, or the reforming of habits. This lifestyle change is generally interpreted as advantageous. A New Year’s Resolution is generally a goal someone sets out to accomplish in the coming year. A key element to a New Year’s Resolution that sets it apart from other resolutions is that it is made in anticipation of the New Year, and new beginnings.”
It may seem odd to you that I would suggest that divorce mediation is a positive New Year’s Resolution. There are, however, two important components involved in the decision to embark on the divorce mediation process that would qualify the choice as a Resolution.
The first component of this positive perspective on initiating a divorce through mediation is that if it is the direction you know you are heading, then the beginning of the year is a very good time to start the process. It is common to put off initiating a project until after the holidays. You no longer have the responsibilities of the holidays hanging over your head. That is all behind you. You don’t have to worry about tainting anyone’s holiday memories and the hustle and bustle and confusion of the season is over.
The second reason that the choice to initiate divorce mediation can be considered a wise New Year’s Resolution is that the mediation process is the most positive and constructive path through the divorce process. If your marriage has broken down to the point that you are experiencing irreconcilable differences, you cannot be more respectful than to work with your spouse to resolve the issues involved in your divorce. Whether you’re currently able to communicate or not, your experienced divorce mediator will facilitate the resolution of the issues involved in your divorce.
The holidays are over. The kids are in school. You can have the hard work out of the way before the summer begins. Yes, it is a good time to resolve to make the decisions that will allow you to move forward with your life in the most healthy way possible under the circumstances. If divorce is inevitable, there is no better gift you can give to yourself or your children than to choose divorce mediation. Yes, the choice to begin your divorce process through mediation is a priceless New Year’s Resolution.