This article lays out some great tips for taking the reactive emotion out of co-parenting.  The tips, however, are universal and particularly helpful when transitioning into your independent life.  As a mediator, I see broken down and/or reactive communication daily.  As an example, this article addresses everyone wanting to be right.  My belief is that if I am wrong, I have the power to change it.  It works so much better when you can have dominion over making positive change.  Also, try to detach and not react.  Accept that some hard feelings will never be resolved with the ex-spouse.  Generally speaking, whether you say it once or ten times, the ex is not going to fix your upset.  I know it isn’t easy but these tips are helpful in co-parenting and in life as a whole…a very helpful article.