Pets in Divorce

Pets are considered personal property in divorce.  Some states will consider who will retain the pet as part of their overall division of personal property, but not to enforce a visitation schedule. In the event that the court does entertain the determination of which spouse shall retain the pet (usually dogs) the following considerations are…

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When Mediating your Divorce Remember…

When Mediating your Divorce Remember… Understanding your spouse’s position is not the same as agreeing with it. Agree to be reasonable. When you’re willing to try to understand the other’s position, as long as it’s at least reasonable and makes sense (the reasonableness of which I understand is in the eye of the beholder), agreeing…

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Divorce and the Affordable Care Act

  If you are the spouse covered on your employer’s plan, you won’t lose your health insurance coverage.  You will drop your soon to be ex-spouse when your divorce is finalized with the court since the divorce would be considered a life changing event. If you have a plan directly from an insurance carrier, you…

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FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a…

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FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day.   Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly…

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