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New Jersey’s New Alimony Law
New Jersey’s alimony law, N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23 was revised on September 10, 2014. Some of the changes in New Jersey’s controversial alimony law clarify durational limits and provide factors for modification and termination of alimony. Probably the most significant change in the New Jersey Alimony Statute is that the term “permanent” alimony has been replaced with…
No Tools Allowed
I love hearing during the divorce mediation process that parents both want to spend time with their children. The flip side of that is using children as a tool or leverage during the divorce process. More often such manipulations happen in the litigation setting than during mediation, but it is important to always prioritize your children’s best interests.…
Which Wolf Will You Feed?
Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil –…
Back to Blogging
We have redesigned the new hope divorce mediation website and in the spirit of renewal I am recommitting to writing blog posts on a more regular basis. I thought I’d begin with the most common concern that potential clients relate to me when they first call to inquire about mediation. “I’ve never been through this…
Smoothing the Divorce Process
Divorce is a highly emotional time for families, and it’s important to get support. Support from friends, families and therapy can help make the divorce process smoother. While the actual mechanics of ‘how to get a divorce” vary from state to state, it usually looks something like this. One of you files a divorce complaint.…
Children and Divorce: Making the Transition
Divorce is hard on everyone. Once you’ve accepted the decision to make the split, how do you break it to the kids? How do you help them make the transition? The first thing to consider is talking with a professional about how to tell them. It’s a good idea to talk with a therapist who…