Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable.
“One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. “The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
The divorce process is made up of a series of choices you make for yourself and your family. As you move through this transitional time and reflect on your choices, how will you judge yourself for the decisions you have made? How will you feel about yourself for your sake and for your children’s sake?
You and your spouse don’t need to agree about the terms of your divorce in advance in order to commit to the mediation process, but wouldn’t it be gratifying to know that during this transitional time in your life you committed to feeding the wolf of compassion and benevolence?