FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a…

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No Tools Allowed

I love hearing during the divorce mediation process that parents both want to spend time with their children.  The flip side of that is using children as a tool or leverage during the divorce process.  More often such manipulations happen in the litigation setting than during mediation, but it is important to always prioritize your children’s best interests.…

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Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil –…

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The Pitfalls of Trying to Negotiate Your Divorce on Your Own

Usually when people call to inquire about divorce mediation they underestimate the complexity of the issues involved under the circumstances of their divorce.  There is the exception of a couple who has been married for a very short period of time, has held all their limited property separately, doesn’t own a home, earns similar salaries…

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Top 10 Reasons to Mediate Your Divorce

The Huffington Post which regularly posts articles on divorce recently published an article that laid out the “Top 10 Reasons to Mediate your Divorce.”  Valuable excerpts from the article are outlined below: “Mediation is a process for resolving conflict and coming to an agreement where decision-making remains with the parties. A neutral mediator assists parties…

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