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Same Sex Marriage Legal in New York!
This week New York joined Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont in legalizing same sex marriage. New York is the largest, most populated state allow gay and lesbian couples to marry. “Supporters of the measure described the victory in New York as especially symbolic — and poignant — because of its rich place in…
Forgiving Ex-Spouse For Your Happy Future
“Anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” What a wise and profound saying–although saying it and living it are two very different things. Although contemporary divorce law no longer considers fault and blame while dividing assets and calculating support payments, the pain, shame and blame are very real. Sometimes the…
Help for Upside Down Mortgages
So many of the couples who I’ve been working with lately are finding themselves upside down on their mortgages. For those of you who aren’t familiar with the term, being ‘upside down’ means that you owe more to the lender on your mortgage than your home is currently worth. The refrain I often hear is…
The 5 Do’s and Don’ts of Divorce
DIVORCE DO’S Get educated—empower yourself to make your own decisions. Stay focused on what’s important. Don’t spend thousands to save $100. Be generous with your actions and decisions regarding your children. If you are flexible and reasonable, you will get through this difficult stage of your life and begin to transition into your next chapter. Eventually…
Can a Divorce Settlement be Invalidated?
This week lawyers across the board have been up in arms over the case of a divorced man who is a victim of Bernie Madoff’s Ponzi scheme. He is asking the court to re-open his divorce settlement. The contention is based on the legal issue that both husband and wife made the mutual mistake of…
Duration of Divorce Mediation Process
I am often asked how long the process of divorce mediation takes. There are many different models of divorce mediation. Many mediators use the same hourly billing method that traditional attorneys use. The problem with that from a time line perspective is that the case can drag on for an indeterminable period of time similar…