December 2, 2015

FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a … Continue reading FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE

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October 16, 2015

FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day.   Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly … Continue reading FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!

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May 27, 2015

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – … Continue reading Which Wolf Will You Feed?

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June 9, 2013

Divorce Advice for an Uncontested Divorce

As you move forward through this transition time, you’re bound to have many questions. A divorce mediator provides neutral facilitation and helps you craft a Separation Agreement that’s mutually agreeable. In The Pitfalls of Trying to Negotiate Your Own Divorce, I outlined some of the common difficulties couples encounter. Namely, there’s not a neutral party … Continue reading Divorce Advice for an Uncontested Divorce

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June 1, 2012

Mediation Training: Family Law Class

I recently attended a 40 hour seminar on family law mediation training.  While mediation is taking hold more and more in the States of New Jersey and Pennsylvania, New Jersey has established this extensive mediation program through the New Jersey Institute of Continuing Legal Education at the Law Center as well as through the New … Continue reading Mediation Training: Family Law Class

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May 11, 2012

Divorce Without the Arguing

Two helpful articles recently written in the Huffington Post about avoiding (or perhaps more realistically minimizing) arguments during the divorce process are written from the perspectives of attorneys and a divorce coach.  Bearing the advice from each in mind while speaking with your soon to be ex-spouse should provide you with some helpful tools. The … Continue reading Divorce Without the Arguing

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April 13, 2012

Grieving and Healing Through Separation and Divorce

In my blogs I like to add my perspective to an expert’s article.  My theory is that I may add my expertise from working with divorcing couples to the ‘authority’ I find online.  In today’s case, the article that caught my attention was not written by a therapist, lawyer or financier, but is an author’s … Continue reading Grieving and Healing Through Separation and Divorce

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March 30, 2012

Facebook and Texting is Incriminating Evidence in Divorces

Facebook posts and text messages are a significant and growing trend as evidence in litigated divorce cases.  Litigants no longer have to convince the judge that their soon-to-be-ex-spouse was committing evil deeds.  Divorcing parties are more often divulging their inappropriate behavior to the judge themselves. Imagine a custody battle and during which concerned and dedicated … Continue reading Facebook and Texting is Incriminating Evidence in Divorces

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March 9, 2012

4 Tax Tips For Divorcing Couples

According to Barbara Zell Weinberger, Esq. writing for the Huffington Post, The following are the most commonly asked questions asked by divorcing couples during tax season. (The additions which I have added are italicized and contained in parentheses.) 1. Do we file jointly or as individuals? The law states that every individual must file according … Continue reading 4 Tax Tips For Divorcing Couples

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March 2, 2012

Turning Divorce Lemons into Lemonade

Some of the time there is mutual agreement as spouses head for divorce.  Of course this is the ideal situation for two people heading for such a significant transitional period in their lives.  Even under the best of circumstances, however, there are challenges and obstacles as each individual embarks on their independent lives.  Sometimes one … Continue reading Turning Divorce Lemons into Lemonade

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