A common theme when approaching divorce is fear. Of course there is fear of the unknown, but what about the fear that results from spousal threats? The BEST OF list of COMMONLY HEARD THREATS: “I will tell the court that you—had an affair, use anti-anxiety medication, have a couple of glasses of wine in a day. I will get sole custody and you will lose the kids.” The standard the court … [Read more...] about FEAR & THREATS & DIVORCE
Divorce is about change. I see it in my practice every day. Usually one mediation participant is further along the transition process than the other who is struggling to come to terms with his or her new reality. Amy Cuddy presented a TED Talk (http://bit.ly/1he9hAR) based on science that could be transformative for divorcing couples—particularly the reluctant spouse. Ms. Cuddy showed her … [Read more...] about FAKE IT ‘TIL YOU BECOME IT!
Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, … [Read more...] about Which Wolf Will You Feed?
As you move forward through this transition time, you’re bound to have many questions. A divorce mediator provides neutral facilitation and helps you craft a Separation Agreement that’s mutually agreeable. In The Pitfalls of Trying to Negotiate Your Own Divorce, I outlined some of the common difficulties couples encounter. Namely, there’s not a neutral party to keep the discussion on track and … [Read more...] about Divorce Advice for an Uncontested Divorce
I recently attended a 40 hour seminar on family law mediation training. While mediation is taking hold more and more in the States of New Jersey and Pennsylvania, New Jersey has established this extensive mediation program through the New Jersey Institute of Continuing Legal Education at the Law Center as well as through the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators. It was a great … [Read more...] about Mediation Training: Family Law Class