February 21, 2017

How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

Facing a divorce is confusing.  You are approaching an unfamiliar process.  Have your heard about divorce mediation?  Here is my summary of the divorce mediation process. I work with both husband and wife together.  You don’t need to be on the same page regarding the resolution of your divorce matters.  You do need to be in agreement … Continue reading How Does Divorce Mediation Work?

By Mindey Elgart
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May 27, 2015

Which Wolf Will You Feed?

Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – … Continue reading Which Wolf Will You Feed?

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August 14, 2013

Handling the Divorce Process with Grace

Divorce is a highly emotional time for families, and it’s important to get support. Support from friends, families and therapy can help make the divorce process smoother. While the actual mechanics of ‘how to get a divorce” vary from state to state, it usually looks something like this. One of you files a divorce complaint. … Continue reading Handling the Divorce Process with Grace

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April 27, 2012

Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation Models & Standards

After attending a Continuing Legal Education mediation training class this week, I was pondering the ongoing debate between mediation styles.  There is a culture which has sprung up in mediation practice in New Jersey which calls for caucusing.  A caucus is a break out session during the mediation process.  The mediator speaks independently and privately … Continue reading Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation Models & Standards

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April 13, 2012

Grieving and Healing Through Separation and Divorce

In my blogs I like to add my perspective to an expert’s article.  My theory is that I may add my expertise from working with divorcing couples to the ‘authority’ I find online.  In today’s case, the article that caught my attention was not written by a therapist, lawyer or financier, but is an author’s … Continue reading Grieving and Healing Through Separation and Divorce

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March 30, 2012

Facebook and Texting is Incriminating Evidence in Divorces

Facebook posts and text messages are a significant and growing trend as evidence in litigated divorce cases.  Litigants no longer have to convince the judge that their soon-to-be-ex-spouse was committing evil deeds.  Divorcing parties are more often divulging their inappropriate behavior to the judge themselves. Imagine a custody battle and during which concerned and dedicated … Continue reading Facebook and Texting is Incriminating Evidence in Divorces

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February 17, 2012

Prenuptial Agreements

A prenuptial agreement, also referred to as premarital or antenuptial agreement, is entered into prior to marriage for the purpose of determining the couple’s rights and obligations in the event they ultimately divorce.  The agreement must be in writing with a statement of assets attached.  The marriage of the parties triggers the agreement.  The law … Continue reading Prenuptial Agreements

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February 3, 2012

Alimony Reform Letters to the Editor

Alimony reform has already been discussed as a hot button issue in New Jersey.  New Jersey courts will order permanent alimony in divorces under certain circumstances such as to a dependent spouse in a long term marriage.  The loudest proponent of alimony reform in New Jersey has been Tom Leustek, a professor at Rutgers and the co-founder … Continue reading Alimony Reform Letters to the Editor

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January 20, 2012

Social Security Benefits and Divorce

An individual is entitled to collect Social Security benefits based on his or her own earnings history, or 50% of the spouse or former spouse’s benefit, if it is greater than the individual’s, or 100% if the spouse is deceased. In the event that the individual is divorced, it must have been a marriage of … Continue reading Social Security Benefits and Divorce

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