Facing a divorce is confusing. You are approaching an unfamiliar process. Have your heard about divorce mediation? Here is my summary of the divorce mediation process. I work with both husband and wife together. You don’t need to be on the same page regarding the resolution of your divorce matters. You do need to be in agreement to voluntarily walk into the room and participate in the … [Read more...] about How Does Divorce Mediation Work?
Over the weekend I saw a movie that contained a fabulous parable. According to my research it is an old Cherokee fable. “One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. “One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, … [Read more...] about Which Wolf Will You Feed?
Divorce is a highly emotional time for families, and it’s important to get support. Support from friends, families and therapy can help make the divorce process smoother. While the actual mechanics of ‘how to get a divorce” vary from state to state, it usually looks something like this. One of you files a divorce complaint. It’s served on the other spouse and filed in the county where you … [Read more...] about Handling the Divorce Process with Grace
After attending a Continuing Legal Education mediation training class this week, I was pondering the ongoing debate between mediation styles. There is a culture which has sprung up in mediation practice in New Jersey which calls for caucusing. A caucus is a break out session during the mediation process. The mediator speaks independently and privately with each participant. New York follows a … [Read more...] about Back to Basics: Divorce Mediation Models & Standards
In my blogs I like to add my perspective to an expert’s article. My theory is that I may add my expertise from working with divorcing couples to the ‘authority’ I find online. In today’s case, the article that caught my attention was not written by a therapist, lawyer or financier, but is an author’s very heartfelt account of the grieving and healing process from his separation and … [Read more...] about Grieving and Healing Through Separation and Divorce